LIFE AFTER MARRIAGE: ARE YOU SCARED?
People
say that once a couple have their first child they try to forget each
other and focus their attention on their CHILDREN. Some even go to the
extent of saying that their love for each other decreases week by week,
month by month and year by year. Contrast to these experiences, a
distant aunt of mine told us that she sometimes loves her husband even
more than her children. Wow! that is lovely. I see them quarrel every
other day. No problem. You see couples fighting over silly things
everyday. Some families possess many cooking utensils and Almira with
broken marks. Perhaps, the couple threw the utensils at each other in
moments of anger .
We
have heard of angry wives complaining that their husbands keep on
chatting with other women. Seems like they are not satisfied with one
woman. They wish they were king Solomon. We have heard of husbands
beating up their wives for being unfaithful. Recently, I heard a blind
husband yelling at his deaf wife, " You idiot! I am waiting for your
death. I couldn't be happier to see you lifeless." Oh no, don't say
that. Well, fortunately, she couldn't hear
or
else he would be torn apart. Remember, he was blind. On some other
occasions the woman shouted similar words to her husband. Lucky that he
couldn't see. To cut the story short, the husband is dead and the woman
mourns for him almost every single day. I kind of find it sweet. Isn't
that an amazing relationship? Who said you can't quarrel after marriage?
Many
married people tell me, " Shanta, don't ever think of getting married,
it's hard, it's really hard. You know you feel like committing suicide
when you have so many worries and troubles and your wife and children
don't understand you. The situation is even worse when your children
grow up and forget all your sacrifices".
Hmmm...yeah,
that makes some sense. Oh, but, I love my history professor telling us,
" Work hard, get a good job, and get married early, and live happily
ever after." Isn't that more delicious? Yup, married life isn't that
bad, I know.
So,
so, my point is, do not be afraid to get married when you are ready
with the resources you need for a nice, happy-life. You may see hundreds
of crimes husbands and wives commit to each other. You may hear of
hundreds of disobedient children making their parents very sad. But it
all depends on the way you build your family relationship. Nothing can
go too wrong when you have built a deep foundation of true family love
and relationship. Life is sweet and your family is even sweeter. Love
life, and your married life won't be a disappointment.
