Who broke your heart? Does it hurt?

Happiness is an inside job

Human life is a constant search for happiness. We do what we do because we want happiness. We eat because we want to survive to be happy. Who eats to die? We go for shopping because we want to be happy. We go for work because we want to be happy. We go for parties because we want happiness. We date, we marry, we have children, all because we want to be happy.

Well, looking at all this and looking into our own life experiences, we find that we always look for happiness on external things. In this digital age we may look for happiness on computer, mobile phones cameras and so on.

People in deep jungles where electricity connection is not available may look for happiness in the animals they catch in the  jungle or in some form of wild intoxicants.

Teens may look for happiness in the smiles or sweet words they get from the opposite sex. Parents may look for happiness in their children and how well they are living.

Money, drugs and sex are three important areas where we think happiness lies. The undeniable truth is that happiness is a necessity for human existence. Without it we literally can't survive.

People get upset because of another persons behavior, deeds or words. We keep blaming others for our unhappiness. We keep blaming others for our broken hearts. We are easily hurt. We get easily angry and disappointed.

Is true happiness really found in external things? The Apple phone you bought thinking that would make you the happiest man on earth doesn't make you happy anymore, right. Does it make you sadder? Possibly...The one you described as your sweet heart as a teen doesn't make you happy anymore, isn't it? Did he/she break your heart? May be...

So, my point is looking for happiness in external things is like searching for a black cat in a dark room where there is no cat. Please do not misunderstand my point. Do things that make you happy, but happiness is already within you. You do not need to search for happiness.

When someone shouts at you, you are not upset because you possess happiness within you. When you loose your job you r not worried or sad because happiness shines bright within you. Your happiness is not defined by persons, things and situations. You do not need them to be happy. You know that everything is under your control. Your emotion is under your control. Unless you press the remote nobody can do anything. In fact nobody does anything, it is you who do everything and blame others, things or situations. Just say 'Yes'  to happiness. Things come and go by, you are not affected. You react when you need to, otherwise be like a good statue.